Recently, I've been feeling a bit shit about my situation in life. I'm unemployed, nearly broke, with no plans, and I have no idea what I'm going to do with my life. I have ideas; I just have no clue how to make them a reality.

Meanwhile, my friends and boyfriend are steaming ahead, going off on holidays or work trips abroad, becoming more financially stable and progressing in their careers, and fair play to them, they've worked their arses off. But as we're all about the same age, I can't help but feel a need to keep up.

I mean, shouldn't I have a stable career and money too now? Nope, because I decided to go travelling and then do a masters for two years, so obviously our situations aren't going to be the same. It's hard to be that rational when you feel like the snail from Monsters University.

I've been chatting at length about this to the fountain of all wisdom that is my mum, and she has to keep reminding me it's not the same and I'm not in the same as everyone else. I wish I could get that in my own head, but when you're boyfriend is in bloody NEW YORK CITY and you're stuck at home, in bed, watching endless episodes of Melissa and Joey or The Pioneer Woman (this is a new find, and I love it) with not really anything to get up for, it's pretty easy to feel sorry for myself.

But I've had enough of wallowing now, you'll be pleased. I know that was a bit of a miserable start to this post, but I wanted to add a bit of background and depth to show - as my old art teacher described - my 'journey' to this point, ya see?

So, obviously I've had the time to think about this, and here are my reasons why you don't ever ever ever have to keep up with everyone else.

  1. You're a different person. How boring would it to be like everyone else? You have different likes, views, interests and skills, and you may not even be in the same industry as your peers. So why would you expect to be like them?
  2. You deserve your own path. This one took a while to sink in. Just because I didn't know what I wanted doesn't mean I should have to settle for something someone else wants if I don't really want it. In the words of the ever fabulous Kate Winslet, 'you're supposed to be the leading lady in your own life, for Christ's sake!' 
  3. Sometimes the right thing is worth waiting for. If I'd not held my ground and gone travelling and studied again, I might still be working in marketing, which absolutely 100% wasn't for me. Those extra few years have led me to where I am now, aiming for a different industry, and for a job I didn't even know existed 4 years ago.
  4. You can do what you want. I am forever glad I chose to go travelling when I did. It was, hands down, one of the best experiences of my life and taught me so much about myself. I put what I wanted first over a career/situation I didn't want to be in, and that's something I did for me. It's something I can look back and be happy about that I took chance before the rest of my life began.
  5. Who says they're right/happy anyways? I've had friends say to me they were thinking about more study or travelling after having seen me do it, which makes me think we're all in the same boat really! No one really knows whether what they're doing right now is the right thing to do...all we have to go on is basically a gut instinct, and sometimes we don't even have that. It's always going to be a leap of faith, whatever you do.
  6. Money/holidays/whatever aren't everything. As long as you're happy, it doesn't matter what everyone else is up to.

M x