Here I am once again, unemployed. I left my job about a month ago - nothing bad at all happened and there's no bad blood, but I wanted to balance things more while I'm still doing my Master's degree - partly because the stress of keeping up with my degree plus taking on a full time job was frankly, giving my mental health a bit of a hit.



I like to be pretty open about my mental health - I wrote a post for the first time about it for World Mental Health Day which you can find here - I don't feel ashamed of it anymore and I feel the best way to confront these things is to talk about them openly, but of course, easier said than done.

Some of the more rubbish times I've experienced within the last year have been when I've found myself without a job and therefore without money coming in. It's hard to keep going when you've got a restricted budget meaning (to an extent) a restriction on your freedom, and feeling like you don't have much control over it. Here's what I've learned to help me deal with those times:

1. Keep pushing on.
This is so easy to say but so hard to do. Every time I applied for a job and either received an email saying 'we've decided not to proceed forward with your application' or even worse, NOTHING (come on, it's not hard to send one email!) I have let myself feel so down about it, like it's a reflection of myself and my abilities. It's not true - unfortunately with the way things are at the moment, it is incredibly hard to get a job, but it is not about you as a person. Every job is competitive nowadays. Keep pushing on, and have faith in yourself that it'll work out - it almost always does.

2. Distract yourself.
Again, this isn't the easiest, especially when you're lying in bed feeling like there's no good reason to get up for the day. I found going for runs really gave me a boost when I needed it; and that's coming from someone who is neither good at nor likes exercise! Whatever it is that gives you a boost, keep doing it, and reward yourself for doing so. You deserve to feel happy no matter what; surround yourself with the happy things.

3. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
Talking to people, asking them to help you or read over your application can be really helpful. Lots of times I've been in the mindset where I wanted to prove to myself that I could be successful without any help, but sometimes you have to let another person in. It can teach you so much, particularly about yourself, and you might pick up something you missed at first in your applications. They always say that a problem shared is a problem halved - and if you don't feel comfortable talking about your mental health, just mention it's your frustration at finding a job. We've all been there!

4. Feel free to have a good cry.
It is so bloomin' frustrating to try so hard to write a good application and have nothing to show for it. Let yourself take out your frustrations by crying, doing some exercise...whatever it is that will help you vent. You'll feel a million times better, and maybe even ready to get back in the game and start on some fresh new job applications.

5. If you're not ready to work yet, that's ok too.
I've been in that place where the sheer idea of going to work fills me with anxiety; so much so that I have turned down a job because the thought of it gave me anxiety attacks. Now, I've just applied for and got an interview for the same workplace. Funny how things work out isn't it? I'm so glad I did turn it down though - I wasn't in the right frame of mind at the time and lots of things were going on, so much so that I know I wouldn't have performed at my best, because I wouldn't have felt comfortable. Even if I don't get this job now, I'm still proud of myself for applying and going for an interview and conquering that anxiety. It takes time, and we all work to different speeds - just make sure you're comfortable and you're ok; your mental health takes priority.


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I hope this helps, and let me know if you've got any more tips! :)

M x