Friendships can be so incredibly complicated. We go through life meeting people who float in and out of our lives making some sort of difference. If we're lucky, these people get to stay for a long time, perhaps forever. But a lot of the time, many people are only there for a short period.

A situation I've been in for a while now has made situations like this incredibly awkward. One person says something about one person, that person hides a few things, others believe the non-truths, others make situations harder, you help someone out and suddenly everything falls to pieces. It's just not worth it.

As I get older, my perceptions about friendships are shifting. I used to be the person who was so afraid of being disliked that I wouldn't ever stand up for myself. Nowadays, I'm of the opinion that nothing I feel should ever be put down or ignored; everyone has the right to express their own opinions and say how they feel.


There is only one problem with this; if speaking your mind and doing what you want intentionally hurts someone.

The situations I've been in during the past year or so unfortunately involve people like this. As a result, I've realised that those who hurt others on purpose are just not the people I want in my life. Aside from adding far too much extra drama, you can't rely on someone who doesn't have your best interests at heart. And it hurts, it really, really hurts to feel let down like that, when you've been there for them and they take you for granted.

I'm not perfect, I never will be and I don't intend to be. I've made my fair share of mistakes and I'm sure I've let people down in my life. But for the future, I want to be surrounded by those who care and who are always there, and luckily, that's what I've got.

It gets a lot harder when those who only provide toxic friendships don't seem to get the idea of what's going on. How do you tell them you've been hurt and want no more without hurting them? How do you prevent yourself from being a hypocrite? I still don't know but I'm trying to work it out. In the current situation, I've just been focusing on my own life, and what's been going on for me. It's meant I've been more distant - which is normal as we all grow up and drift - but for some reason, the situation still exists, and it's gotten to a very awkward and upsetting position!

It gets to a point where you just have to lay your hands down and say no more. No more drama or awkwardness or hurt. Honesty has got to come out at some point, and if that doesn't work, what else can you do? Dumbledore is always right isn't he?